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Self-compassion Grows by Practicing Self-care


I love the moon and her spiral cycles!  What’s almost inconceivable to me is that, “It’s the same moon!”  For as long as human beings have been on the planet, we have all watched the same moon! It’s ever changing and always beautiful.  Do you take time out occasionally to look up at the moon and soak in her silver energy?  How often do you take time for yourself?


I tend to get up, drink coffee and start my day without “remembering” to meditate and exercise.  My biggest diversionary tactic is checking my email right off the bat.  I know it’s not the best way to begin my day. I guess curiosity kills the cat and my motivation.  Sometimes I do exercise and sometimes I do meditate.  When I do my day goes better and I feel better.  I like to make time to write in my journal.  When I do I feel more clear. I also use my journal to explore new possibilities.  I am always questioning myself. Now I am encouraging you to question yourself.  To misquote Socrates, the examined life is worth living!


We all need to have some form of regular self-care.  It’s critical to our mental, physical and emotional health.  If we burn the candle at both ends, our light will go disappear.  We won’t be helpful or useful to anyone if we are grumpy, tired and worn out.  And yet, paradoxically, guilt seems to instantly step in.  The negative self-talk starts up.  “I have to do this. I need to do that. I must get there.”  Really?


We are at risk of burnout, emotional exhaustion, when we try to do too much, go too fast, cram too much into one day, one week, a month, a lifetime.  Burnout will lead to a loss of enthusiasm and a sense of disengagement from your life.   Regular self-nurturing can prevent these feelings of being overloaded and depleted.


What are some of your major stressors?  Do you have any strategies to cope with stress?  What are some changes you could make that would help you take better care of yourself?  These questions require consistent self-monitoring.


By taking better care of yourself, you become more compassionate towards your mind and your body. Self-compassion leads to acceptance of where you are in the moment. This compassion then extends towards others and love continues to grow.




  1. Michelle on October 17, 2011 at 12:21 pm

    I agree with you that self-care is so incredibly important – and so easy for us to overlook! I try to make self-care a habit so that I do it without even thinking about it – obviously it’s better if I’m being conscious about it (and I do try to) but habitual self-care is definitely better than none at all. For me, this looks like building yoga and meditation into my morning routine, and making time for tea every day.

    • Loran Hills on October 17, 2011 at 12:33 pm

      It sounds like you are well on your way towards regular self-care, Michelle! If it ‘s a habit then we don’t have to think about it so much. Planning it as first will help it become habitual.

  2. Effy on October 17, 2011 at 5:36 pm

    I so totally feel this statement: I tend to get up, drink coffee and start my day without “remembering” to meditate and exercise. My biggest diversionary tactic is checking my email right off the bat.

    It’s something I’ve struggled with for a couple of years now. The knowing that if I start my day differently, I will have a better day doesn’t seem to help me actually change my bad habit of launching out of bed and onto the Intertubes.

    Lovely post. <3

    • Loran Hills on October 17, 2011 at 9:51 pm

      Sometimes I hesitate to write about one thing and then admit I do another but then it feels right when someone else says, “I do it too.”. We all do the best we can and need to remember to treat our challenges gently. Being more loving and accepting towards myself is more fruitful in the long run whether I check my emails with coffee in hand or not.

  3. Ellie Di on October 18, 2011 at 6:43 am

    Hooray for self-care! We often think about it as long soaks in the tub or time spent alone, but it really can be as simple as remembering to meditate for five minutes in the morning or just not checking your email first thing. It’s all about keeping your Self happy and cared for, not necessarily about doing things you otherwise wouldn’t have time for.

    A great reminder to do the little things!

    • Loran Hills on October 18, 2011 at 9:43 am

      Keep it simple? What a concept!

  4. Natasha on October 18, 2011 at 9:31 am

    I am obsessed with the moon…and so are my kids. The other night I woke at 4am and the light streaming in from the moon was gorgeous…i wanted to dance in it. Self-care…this is an everlasting work in progress for me…I am always working on balance – taking care of others and then taking care of myself. It’s a struggle but a worthwhile one. Self-care management changes from time to time – journaling one day, paint the next, a walk the next but I try…it is as every changing as the moon itself

    • Loran Hills on October 18, 2011 at 9:43 am

      It’s all perfect, Natasha!

  5. Allurynn on October 18, 2011 at 11:10 am

    Wow, Loran! I have such an affinity with the Moon, I love this picture. I was so thrilled to have the full moon grace my birthday this year. At which time I did a wonderful birthday ritual and one of the I want for the upcoming year is to reconnect with my self-care through my essential oils and Yoga and such. I totally agree, self care is so important to keep us balanced ♥

    • Loran Hills on October 18, 2011 at 11:15 am

      It’s an ongoing process, like Natasha said, it can change from time to time. We definitely need to find our balance in the rush of day-to-day life.

  6. Dominee on October 18, 2011 at 11:36 am

    The thing that stuck out to me the most about this was that it’s the same moon. I don’t know why, but I never really thought about it like that before! How strange. I just had this flash of awe that for thousands of years people have been gazing up at it. To think of all of the things that transpired underneath it, all of the people that gazed up at it, the thoughts, feelings, emotions that welled up inside of them…
    It makes me feel really connected to those that came before me.
    But back on topic! Self care is so important. It has really helped me cope with depression and it has helped improve the way I feel about myself, which is amazing!

  7. Loran Hills on October 18, 2011 at 11:39 am

    Dominee, that was the reaction I had when the realization struck that for thousands of years people have been gazing up at the SAME moon!

    It’s great that you discovered self-care as a tool for coping with your depression. Well done!

  8. Marla @ Your Full Plate on October 24, 2011 at 7:53 pm

    I love how you said “If we burn the candle at both ends, our light will go disappear”.

    Feeling a little bittersweet reading this today, as I did have a day off from work but wish I’d squeezed in a bit more self care. Reading your post is some good synchronicity reminding me to choose differently for the next day off!

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